Christian Dating – Sweetie, You Are Hella Amazing!

When I say “let them go free” I don’t mean completely but mentally and spiritually. It’s so easy to become codependent by holding on tight in a relationship – and it’s usually because of fear of losing or being disappointed by that person. So we hold on tight, not knowing that we’re slowly taking away that persons freedom to live, we’re domesticating them based on our needs. Love doesn’t demand its own way and this applies to any relationship.

The realest thing I heard was someone say “You don’t own people, you experience them.” This is facts! People come in and out of your life but while they’re there, cherish and appreciate who they are and not who you expect them to be for you. This is the antidote to not carrying around guilt when that one person that leaves that you weren’t ready for them to go.

I never understood how my mom never returned to me recovered from drugs, you know in them movies where the mom would be an addict but before the movie ends, she’s clean and ready to take on the role as mom. That wasn’t my story – and I carried that around for years and it impacted my relationships with those that I loved the most. I expected them to be perfect, without flaw because my greatest fear was losing them to the temptations of the world. I felt that I worked sooooo hard not to follow in her footsteps that everyone else around me should have the same will-power. Selfish me. It took midlife for me to figure out that my way of thinking was all wrong. For years God has been dealing with me on how to love perfectly – and I finally know what it means to let go of my expectations of others – and to love and accept them as is. It wasn’t easy because I cried a lot and had to face my fears, but it was worth it because my relationships have a new meaning. His love.

If you have an issue with letting go, ask God for help because with fear comes torment, rather you’re tormenting yourself or others, it’s not the way to live. He came so that we may have life and in abundance. It’s time to set the captive free.

Until next time Sweetie!

His love and peace!

Mecca Lasha ❤️❤️

John 10:10

The thief comes only to steal and kill and destroy; I have come that they may have life, and have it abundantly.

1 John 4:18

There is no fear in love. But perfect love drives out fear, because fear has to do with torment. The one who fears is not made perfect in love.

1 Corinthians 13: 4-8

Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no account of wrongs. Love takes no pleasure in evil, but rejoices in the truth. 7It bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.

Love never fails. But where there are prophecies, they will cease; where there are tongues, they will be restrained; where there is knowledge, it will be dismissed.

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Chile, where do I start when explaining the woman that I was before marriage #2. I thought I was everything a man would love to have. Sis!!! Checklist was in order! Boom, bam, bing!……But what I found myself attracting was men who expected me to “hold-them-down.” Which I did because I was always told, “if you don’t another woman will.” Uh un, I was not going to be blinded by the infamous clean-up woman. I wanted to be that woman with no competition and the one a man would hate to see walk away. Honey, I always put my best foot forward, well that’s what I thought I was doing, but when God got a hold of my behind, this is what he revealed that I was bringing to the table:

▪️My good credit, that I used to persuade men.

▪️My nice size butt, that I used to entice men.

▪️My beautiful home, that I used to house men.

▪️My high paying job, that I used to impress men.

▪️My nice bank account, that I used to buy men.

So as you see, we can think we’re giving a man our very best but at the end of the day, it could be a bunch of shallow stuff because we believe those are the things that are attracting attributes……and then we feel disappointed and hurt when we end up in debt financially, damaged emotionally, drained mentally and used sexually.

This was my story until I turned to God for answers because I was tired of coming out of relationships feeling depleted. I knew it was me because I was the common denominator.

My first marriage was a hot mess because I didn’t know what it meant to be a wife outside of being superficial and I didn’t want to repeat the same behavior. 🙅🏾‍♀️

I’ve heard that you should be careful when you ask God for something specific because you never know how the answer will come. Girrrrlllll…. He took me, broke me and restored me for the husband He had for me. Man, what I thought was pure punishment, had a purpose.

That butt that I had, deflated after I lost 30lbs. I lost my job, car and my home, so there went my credit. Oh my bank account was in the negative….because I had so much pride in my status, I didn’t ask anybody for help. Those guys vanished because I had nothing more to give!

I spent 4 years with God getting to know who He created me to be….not what I created me to be. When I say that I was literally unraveled y’all, it was layer-by-layer and it was painful but it all worked for my good and His glory. 😖

I have so much more to share, so look for the next blog about how I got over and through, hahaha….be blessed, talk to you soon.

⁃ Mecca Lasha ❤️❤️

9 likewise also that women should adorn themselves in respectable apparel, with modesty and self-control, not with braided hair and gold or pearls or costly attire, 10 but with what is proper for women who profess godliness—with good works.

1Timothy 2:9-10

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