Relationship, Vulnerable, Transparent, Authentic, Marriage, Wife, Single, Love, Relationship, God First, Christian Dating

Sweetie, who does he say that you are?’

I ask this question because many of us only let a man in about 50% of our truth. Especially if we feel that he’s worthy to be impressed or if any man has ever used our wounds as a weapon. I understand – totally get it when it’s more comfortable to keep your secrets close to your heart but understand this, there is always a woman out there that’s willing to tell her story. Honey, it’s the stripper that’s working her way through college that a married man goes and see every week because he has bonded with her truth over a few dances and drinks. Or, the local grocery store clerk that’s being abused by her boyfriend that tells her story to the guy who comes in her line every other day and he’s intrigued with her strength.

This may not sound like a big deal but how often do you hear about a man cheating with a woman that seems to be average compared to the woman who’s being cheated on? Why is this so common? Men love to feel needed, and a woman that has been through some rough times and survived, is who he wants to protect. Men bond easily to the imperfect than with the perceived perfect. The conversation comes naturally and doesn’t require the guess-work or wondering if she’s being genuine or will surprises come later. Now I’m not saying that every man deserves your vulnerability but if this is a person that you can see forever with, he needs to know your fears, hurts and dreams. The things that make you who you are.

Let’s take a look at the story of Mary and Martha, Luke 10: 38-42

38 As Jesus and his disciples were on their way, he came to a village where a woman named Martha opened her home to him. 39 She had a sister called Mary, who sat at the Lord’s feet listening to what he said. 40 But Martha was distracted by all the preparations that had to be made. She came to him and asked, “Lord, don’t you care that my sister has left me to do the work by myself? Tell her to help me!”

41 “Martha, Martha,” the Lord answered, “you are worried and upset about many things, 42 but few things are needed—or indeed only one.[a] Mary has chosen what is better, and it will not be taken away from her.”

Mary was vulnerable with Jesus, she spent time listening to Him because she knew His words would heal her hurt, the bond was created. Martha was more concerned about appearing perfect before the Lord and remaining busy doing stuff hoping that would mask her true identity to Him but He was able to seen right through her. She had a lot of hurt and pain that she hid behind her works.

Which one are you Mary of Martha? Does your husband or significant other know the inner hurt that keeps you at Jesus feet or does he know the ”I’m alright” stay busy hiding behind what you do? If you’re not sure, ask him or someone close to you because they’ll know.

I was Martha for soooooo long but I had to become Mary with my husband and share ALL my good, bad and ugly. Guess what ladies, he did the same with me and that’s what created our bond. We both feel safe with each other. So if I’m feeling fearful about anything, he’s my safe haven and vice-versa.

If you need some help on how to be vulnerable ladies, I recommend ”Daring Greatly” by Brene Brown. It’s a great resource and tool to have on deck, when needed.

You can do it, just try and I’d love to hear your feedback. Let’s chat.

Mecca Lasha ❤️❤️

Promoted Post

Sponsored Post Learn from the experts: Create a successful blog with our brand new courseThe WordPress.com Blog

WordPress.com is excited to announce our newest offering: a course just for beginning bloggers where you’ll learn everything you need to know about blogging from the most trusted experts in the industry. We have helped millions of blogs get up and running, we know what works, and we want you to to know everything we know. This course provides all the fundamental skills and inspiration you need to get your blog started, an interactive community forum, and content updated annually.

Christian Dating, Humility, Relationship, Vulnerable, Transparent, Authentic, Marriage, Wife, Single, Love, Relationship, God First, Christian Dating

His Pain Before Purpose

5798A40C-C3E0-4910-A961-14D7C891B82A

Chile, where do I start when explaining the woman that I was before marriage #2. I thought I was everything a man would love to have. Sis!!! Checklist was in order! Boom, bam, bing!……But what I found myself attracting was men who expected me to “hold-them-down.” Which I did because I was always told, “if you don’t another woman will.” Uh un, I was not going to be blinded by the infamous clean-up woman. I wanted to be that woman with no competition and the one a man would hate to see walk away. Honey, I always put my best foot forward, well that’s what I thought I was doing, but when God got a hold of my behind, this is what he revealed that I was bringing to the table:

▪️My good credit, that I used to persuade men.

▪️My nice size butt, that I used to entice men.

▪️My beautiful home, that I used to house men.

▪️My high paying job, that I used to impress men.

▪️My nice bank account, that I used to buy men.

So as you see, we can think we’re giving a man our very best but at the end of the day, it could be a bunch of shallow stuff because we believe those are the things that are attracting attributes……and then we feel disappointed and hurt when we end up in debt financially, damaged emotionally, drained mentally and used sexually.

This was my story until I turned to God for answers because I was tired of coming out of relationships feeling depleted. I knew it was me because I was the common denominator.

My first marriage was a hot mess because I didn’t know what it meant to be a wife outside of being superficial and I didn’t want to repeat the same behavior. 🙅🏾‍♀️

I’ve heard that you should be careful when you ask God for something specific because you never know how the answer will come. Girrrrlllll…. He took me, broke me and restored me for the husband He had for me. Man, what I thought was pure punishment, had a purpose.

That butt that I had, deflated after I lost 30lbs. I lost my job, car and my home, so there went my credit. Oh my bank account was in the negative….because I had so much pride in my status, I didn’t ask anybody for help. Those guys vanished because I had nothing more to give!

I spent 4 years with God getting to know who He created me to be….not what I created me to be. When I say that I was literally unraveled y’all, it was layer-by-layer and it was painful but it all worked for my good and His glory. 😖

I have so much more to share, so look for the next blog about how I got over and through, hahaha….be blessed, talk to you soon.

⁃ Mecca Lasha ❤️❤️

9 likewise also that women should adorn themselves in respectable apparel, with modesty and self-control, not with braided hair and gold or pearls or costly attire, 10 but with what is proper for women who profess godliness—with good works.

1Timothy 2:9-10